Addiction is a family disease, one person may use, but the whole family suffers because of it.
In all actuality, we are all addicted to something. Facebook, our phones, tv, sugar, piercings or tattoos…etc. But I am talking about addictions that cause devastation and reek havoc on your families. The most common of these addictions are drugs, alcohol, and porn. Families suffer each and every day due to these addictions. There is no hell quite like watching someone you love to choose their addiction over their own flesh and blood or better yet watch them suffer for many many years in hopes that one day they will change and the addiction takes them away from you… I know this hard truth all too well.
Every day is a constant battle…
My family has suffered so much due to addiction, just as many others have. The pain is real, the battle is real, and the feeling that it will never end is REAL! There is not a day that goes by that makes the battle any easier if you have someone in your family with some kind of addiction. Their choices affect you in ways that gnaw at your heart. You may even as I do constantly worry about their safety due to you knowing the type of situations they have been in. It hurts and it destroys you to the core…
Addicts DO NOT and I repeat do not see how their actions and choices impact those around them. They will say and do whatever it takes to get what they are addicted too. They will do things that you never imagined to feed that addiction. They will steal from you, lie to you and try anything in their power to tell you what you want to hear.
It is like a zombie with a full on hunger for brains…it is the only thing they live for….and you know what I am saying is true. Once they finally have a taste, get high again, or watch that website the hunger only grows stronger and stronger for more. One drink is never enough, one pill is not enough and one porn site is not enough. The temptation to fill the void they are trying to hide from overpowers their judgments. They will push those that love them farther and farther away not realizing how badly that hurts you and your family in the process. In the end, the addiction always wins. It is hard to accept, but look around, it is real and it is destroying millions of families around you.
Addiction is baffling, not only for the addict but for those that try to be supportive. There comes a time when you realize by trying to help them, that you are actually enabling their addiction. As hard as it is, tough love is the only cure for your heartache. You can help as much as you can, but they have to want to help themselves. You can’t save them, only love them….and sometimes that’s from a distance.
All you can do is pray and trust that they receive the “gift of desperation”. That desperation will soon lead them to rock bottom and only God can meet them there, pick them up and dust them off. The choice is not yours though, it is only in their hands alone. They have to want it for themselves. Only the addict can come to the realization that on their own they will not change, they have to choose God above their addiction. As a family, you have to know first hand that the addict is not your enemy or who you are truly fighting with. You never stop loving the addict, you start putting on the armor of God in order to fight the devil himself…
John 10:10 (CEB) The thief enters only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came so that they could have life—indeed …so that they could live life to the fullest.
The tears that I have cried over the years while crying out to God to heal my family from addiction could quite possibly fill a hundred swimming pools and I am not exaggerating. My heart hurts so badly because I just want to take it all away. I feel as if I am completely helpless when it comes to this matter. When I tell you that the devil only wants to kill, steal and destroy the family that you have, I am not lying! If you are not willing to stand in the gap for your family with constant prayers of protection and fight for their every need, the devil will continue to fight for it and if God is not who you put your trust in, the devil will win your family.
Plain and simple…WHO DOES YOUR HELP COME FROM?
The only one who can save your family from this devastation comes from seeking help that only our Lord and Savior provides, but you also have to do some work in order to see those changes.
KEEP FIGHTING FOR YOUR FAMILY!
Psalm 121:2-My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.
IN LOVING MEMORY OF MY COUSIN, BRANDON, AND ALL THOSE THAT HAVE LOST THEIR LIVES DUE TO ADDICTIONS.
July 6, 1982-July 10, 2016
This battle is real and it is a family disease. I leave you with this prayer today:
Dear Lord Jesus, I come to you today to stand in the gap for my family. I give you this battle with my families addiction today. I place (family member) in your hands and plead the blood that you shed upon the cross over them. I pray for protection over them in Jesus name. I bind satan and any attack that he may try to place on our family. In Jesus precious name I pray…AMEN..