Women of God, you are not invisible! What others see in you, is not what God sees in you.
GOD SEES YOU<
I have recently found that I love “myself”. I no longer feel that I need to be surrounded by several friends, I do not have to be part of any certain clique or group. I am no longer alone when I am alone. I like who I have become because I have fought dang hard to become who I am today…
Today I stand tall in a crowd, today my light shines brighter than before. It is not because of myself, or anything that I have done, it is because of my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Finally, at 33- years old, I love me.
HAVE YOU EVER FELT INVISIBLE?
The old me would constantly struggle with how people saw me or if they liked me as a person. I felt as if I had to put myself out there and keep everyone else happy around me, all the while I was suffering inside. Not everyone has the same heart as you and not everyone is in your corner. I know that we have all read or heard this statement a million times. But that is a hard statement to understand. I would often feel “invisible” amongst friends. I would ask myself…Why doesn’t anyone want to truly get to know the real me? What in the world is wrong with me? What do I not have that so and so has? I never seemed to measure up in my mind. I would take a personality test online and other assessments to try and figure out what was wrong with me. But as helpful as those test might have been, I was not thinking to myself “What does God think about me?”
I would look to my husband for so many answers. Every day I bombarded him with the look of “oh poor pitiful” me. Each day he would put me in his arms for a deep warm hug and reassure me of how “awesome” I was and that people were truly missing out if they didn’t like me. “Forget them, he would say.” My husband has always given me words of affirmation, if he isn’t being goofy and making me laugh, then he is for sure giving me some kind of pep talk. I am blessed for sure. But my husband giving me validation did not always seem to help. It was frustrating, to say the least. I just wanted people to like me.
People-pleasing is miserable. I will just tell you from many years of experience that it never works out in your favor. So stop…please for the love of cheese..stop being a people pleaser today. People pleasing often stems from a lack of self-esteem. When you are a people pleaser, you will go above and beyond for everyone else and believe that you are less than others. You will feel invisible.
If you are not sure if you are a people pleaser or not…
Here are 15 signs that you may be a “PEOPLE PLEASER”.
- You worry about hurting others feelings
- You often feel like a doormat
- You want everyone to like you
- You believe you are not as important as others
- You feel it is wrong to give yourself credit for anything
- You never want to leave anyone out of anything
- You fear letting others down
- You always apologize no matter what anyone has done to you
- You rarely accept help from others because you don’t want to burden anyone
- You are helpful to everyone, even those that would never help you
- You can always be counted on for a favor
- You always finish your work and offer to help others finish theirs
- You can not say no to anyone
- You live your life based on someone else’s opinion of you
- You avoid sharing your ideas because you believe someone else may have a better idea than you
Do any of these sound familiar? I am not, however, saying that you do not need to be kind to people and help others. If anyone knows me, I am all about servanthood and helping others. I am only saying that you can not live your life trying to seek validation through people.
Circumstances in our lives have a way of changing us. During those circumstances, we can not exactly see what God is changing within us, but after the storm is over we look back and see who we are becoming.
God sees us even when we feel invisible to the world. You are valuable!
Genesis 2:7-Then the LORD God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.
The very air in your lungs was given to you by God himself and God does not make MISTAKES!! You were not created by “accident”. I can not stand when people say they got pregnant by accident. No, I am sorry, but you did not. PSALM 139:16 proves my point. I knit you together in your mother’s womb. God knew you even before you were created or thought about. He “knit” you to be who you are today. PSALM 139:14- You are fearfully and wonderfully made. GOD SEES YOU!!! Our self-worth is not based on how people see us and you are not called to please man, you are called to please God. YOU ARE NOT INVISIBLE TO GOD. When you say “no one sees me”, God says “I see you. You are the focus of my love”. (Eph. 1:4)
I repeat…YOU ARE NOT INVISIBLE TO GOD
So today look in the mirror and speak over yourself…
I am a daughter of the King of Glory
I am not invisible because God alone sees me
I am chosen, called and equipped to do great things
I will no longer seek validation in others
My validation comes from God
I am not invisible, God sees me
Today I love myself…
HAPPY FRIDAY Y’ALL